If my daughter’s name is Tzeitel, why Hannah’s Tears?

Chalk this up as frequently asked question #1. Why did I name my memory box program Hannah’s Tears if my daughter’s name is Tzeitel? So many people name their programs and organizations after their heavenly children, and I think that’s great, but that thought never entered my mind. I’m not sure why, but it didn’t.

Image

When we decided, shortly before Tzeitel’s due date, that we wanted to give back in some way, and to make sure that families didn’t leave the hospital empty handed like we did. When we first decided it would be memory boxes, and that we wanted to provide them at the hospital, we knew we had to come up with a name, before we started talking to people. My husband had been doing some Bible study about women and families in the Bible who suffered infertility and/or baby loss. He said that as he studied Hannah, in 1st Samuel, that the usage of “the Lord closed her womb” it means that she hadn’t given birth to a live child. I knew immediately that I had to name my program after this sweet mama who cried out to the Lord in her grief.

1st Samuel 1: 1-9 (NKJV)
Now there was a certain man of Ramathaim Zophim, of the mountains of Ephraim, and his name 
was Elkanah the son of Jeroham, the son of Elihu, the son of Tohu, the son of Zuph, an Ephraimite. And he had two wives: the name of one was Hannah, and the name of the other Peninnah. Peninnah had children, but Hannah had no children. This man went up from his city yearly to worship and sacrifice to the Lord of hosts in Shiloh. Also the two sons of Eli, Hophni and Phinehas, the priests of the Lord, were there. And whenever the time came for Elkanah to make an offering, he would give portions to Peninnah his wife and to all her sons and daughters. But to Hannah he would give a double portion, for he loved Hannah, although the Lord had closed her womb. And her rival also provoked her severely, to make her miserable, because the Lord had closed her womb. So it was, year by year, when she went up to the house of the Lord, that she provoked her; therefore she wept and did not eat. Then Elkanah her husband said to her, “Hannah, why do you weep? Why do you not eat? And why is your heart grieved? Am I not better to you than ten sons?” So Hannah arose after they had finished eating and drinking in Shiloh. Now Eli the priest was sitting on the seat by the doorpost of the tabernacle of the Lord. And she was in bitterness of soul, and prayed to the Lord and wept in anguish. 

 

The story goes on to talk of how she prayed for a son and said that she would give him back to the Lord, to serve God all of his days, and that she was blessed with such a son, Samuel. As I think about her story, I can only imagine her life, her pain. “And her rival also provoked her severely, to make her miserable, because the Lord had closed her womb.” Reading this makes me think, did Hannah hear the things that we hear? There’s nothing new under the sun, so I’m sure the same taunts that are used today were used then. “Why don’t you have any children, Hannah?” “Is there something wrong with you?” “When are you going to have children?” “Are you trying to have children?” and so on. We all know the things that people say without thinking, that dig at our bereaved hearts. Where do you turn when those things are said to you? Do you turn to anger? to hate? to bitterness? It’s a hard choice to make… bitterness is easy, anger is easy. To make the choice to turn to God in our sorrow is a really hard choice to make.

 

IMG_5708psalm121flip

For me, my faith has been the biggest part of my healing. If it wasn’t for God, I don’t know where I’d be. My faith in God allows me to know that when I die, I will go to Heaven, and that my baby girl is there waiting for me. It allows me to know that Christ died for my sins and I have accepted His blood as atonement for my sins. It tells me that God is in control, and that no matter what goes on in this sinful world, that in the end, He wins. It allows me to know that even when bad things come, He uses that to draw me closer to Him, and that He will also use it for good in the end. Through my loss, I have been able to meet hundreds of families that I would have otherwise never known. I have been able to touch the lives of people with His message and do things I would have never fathomed. I would have never chose this path for myself. I would have chose the “easy” road, I’m sure of it! But God knows the big picture. I’ve heard it said that life is like a big tapestry, but we can only see the back, it doesn’t make sense to us, it’s just a jumble of all of these different colors, thread sticking out all over the place. It looks ugly. But at the end, we will be able to see the front, to be able to see how God interwove all of the experiences of our lives together to make a beautiful picture. One of my favorite pastors to listen to, Dr. S. M. Davis of Solve Family Problems, has a wonderful sermon available called “What Happens when you Miscarry”. This sermon has been a great comfort to me. In it he talks about that God doesn’t allow us to see what we will go through in the future, because we aren’t ready for it yet. He prepares us each day, each moment, for what we will go through in the future. But we have to trust Him for that. I pray that you would trust God today, that you would know Him. If you don’t know Him as your Savior today, please, read the book of John, as it clearly explains the life of Jesus and His sacrifice in His death, and how He was raised from the dead.

I love being able to share my faith, and I love being able to share about my girl, but to me they go hand in hand. ❤

Advertisements

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in:

WordPress.com Logo

You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Log Out / Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out / Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out / Change )

Google+ photo

You are commenting using your Google+ account. Log Out / Change )

Connecting to %s