I’ve never been one to think that I “needed” support groups (even though I’m in quite a few on Facebook), I guess I thought I had it together. Not sure where that idea came from. Anyway, after a year and a half of being a bereaved mother, I have finally come to the point where I realize the fantastic good that comes from sitting in a room with someone who knows exactly what you’re talking about and doesn’t think you’re crazy. I attended my first meeting of the Bereaved Parents of the US a couple weeks ago, and I have to say, I loved it. As crazy as it sounds, to say that you loved meeting with a bunch of people who’ve all lost children, I loved it! We introduced ourselves, and at this meeting, the discussion topic was “My child’s possession.” Some of the parent’s who’d lost older children brought items such as hats, jackets, etc. Since I lost Tzeitel so early, I really didn’t have anything that was “her’s”. I have lots in memory of her, but nothing that actually touched her, or belonged to her. So, I took my Molly Bear. I dressed her in her tutu and bow, and she sat on my lap through the meeting. When it came to our turn, I explained what a Molly Bear is, and showed her off. I also had my framed ultrasound photo there. It was so special to have these other people, in person, validating my Tzeitel, and oohing and awwing over her!
If you haven’t been to a support group meeting, for whatever reason, I strongly suggest that you find one in your area and attend, even if just for a few meetings. If you have, what’s your experience been? ❤